According to this guide, what is a good way for a man to approach a woman he is interested in for the first time?

The guide suggests that men should not just walk up to any woman and immediately introduce themselves, as this can be perceived as "plain creepy" and intrusive [1]. Instead, it's recommended to look for some familiarity, like if she's a friend of a friend or a former classmate [2]. If she's a stranger, ensure the situation is appropriate and be gentle and considerate when approaching, showing that you genuinely want to talk, perhaps with a compliment [2]. Timing is also important; avoid approaching a woman alone at night [3].

Based on this article, what are some recommended things to talk about with a woman to keep her engaged?

The guide advises keeping questions light, open-ended, and engaging [4]. Examples include asking about her music preferences, how she manages her job, what would happen if she didn't pursue her passion, or what inspired her to work out [5]. The goal is to understand who she is, but it's also important to be sensitive and ask appropriate questions for the circumstances [5]. The guide also highlights the importance of finding common ground and similar experiences to connect [6].

How does this guide suggest a man can make a woman feel comfortable when starting a conversation, especially if she might be wary of strangers?

The guide emphasizes the need for comfort for women to be willing to talk [4]. When approaching, be gentle and considerate, showing you just want to talk [2]. It's crucial to be respectful, show courtesy, acknowledge her presence, and maintain a safe distance [3]. Thinking like a woman and understanding their potential wariness of unfamiliar people is key [7]. Personal accounts in the guide suggest that a soft greeting, a kind request to sit nearby, or a comment about her interests (like books) can be well-received [8]. Common humor can also create a sense of safety [9], and even simple, general comments about the surroundings can help initiate conversation with someone who is quiet [10].

Why does this guide emphasize the importance of active listening when talking to women, and how can a man show he is a good listener?

The guide differentiates between hearing and listening, stating that listening involves intently understanding what is being said [11]. Actively listening makes a woman feel safe and acknowledges her statements and presence [11]. Instead of just remembering everything she says, the guide suggests questioning parts of her conversation and making relatable responses now and then [11]. It's important not to constantly interrupt unless it's for relatability and to always be courteous [6]. This demonstrates genuine interest and helps build a deeper connection, as highlighted in the caption for one of the images [4].

For men who may lack experience talking to women, what advice does this guide offer to improve their conversation skills and build confidence?

The guide acknowledges that learning how to talk to females can be a process, especially for those without experience [12]. It suggests that dating apps and services can provide opportunities to practice conversation skills [12]. The internet, in general, offers resources to hone communication skills. The guide encourages practice and determination, advising men not to be discouraged by mistakes, as mastery takes time [12].

The Art of Conversing: How to Talk to Females

A man and woman are having coffee together

Knowing how to talk to females before a date ensures you’ll have a great and enjoyable time together.

We live in an age where information is easily accessible right at our fingertips. All the guides and basics made by professionals and gurus are there, ready to be accessed. But somehow we still choose not to. Case in point, young men everywhere don’t know how to talk to girls and still wonder why they can’t attract women.

Of course, women are complex—never one sided. They’re not the same as men who can be straightforward. It takes more than mere looks and physique for a woman to be attracted to someone.

So, here’s a simple guide on what to say to a girl you like so you will have the courage to take that leap. Knowing how to talk to females is indispensable in the dating world.

Know How to Approach a Woman

Let’s set one thing straight: don’t just walk up to any woman you see and immediately introduce yourself. That would just be plain creepy. Not to mention, you’ll be intruding on her personal space. Even you would feel intimidated if a woman suddenly walks up to you out of nowhere.

Before approaching her, you need to know what kind of things to talk about with a girl. Scope out if she’s a friend of a friend or a former classmate—anything with a little familiarity would help you approach them. If they’re a stranger, just be sure the opportunity calls for it. Don’t disrupt their work or meeting if you see them in cafes on their laptops.

When approaching them, be gentle and considerate. Show them that you just genuinely want to talk and pair it with a compliment. Whether in a bar, cafe, or a hotel pool, you have to show them you’re there to talk and nothing else.

And most important of all is timing. This means you have to take into consideration the time of day. You don’t want to approach a woman alone at night.

The Right Way to Talk to Women

When you talk to women, talk to them with respect (generally you should be respectful to everyone you talk to). Show some courtesy, acknowledge their presence, and keep a safe distance for conversation.

There are many methods when it comes to talking to a woman. Here are some examples:

Think Like a Woman

If you want to talk to girls, you must think like one. Empathy is key. Understanding what a woman is and what she likes is important. You wouldn’t want to talk about MMA or the Stock Market unless the woman you’re talking to is into those. Generally, women have different, often contrasting interests than men. They are soft by nature, and are wary of hostile or unfamiliar people.

You’ll need to put yourself in the shoes of the woman you’re talking to. Picture another version of you approaching you—the woman—and imagine how the other version of yourself would engage in conversation. Would you feel safe? Would you feel disgusted?

For reference, here are some perspectives of women on how they want a man to approach and make conversations with them:

“I am a book girl and I go to the cafes frequently. I may be introverted but I wouldn’t mind having someone sit in front of me if there aren’t any tables available. In my honest opinion, I would like it if a man softly greets himself and asks if he could sit with me, and if he comments something nice about the books I read—I think my heart would be fluttering in all places. But on a serious note, I’m a little bit of a romantic kind of woman, so if a presentable man asks kindly if he could sit with me and talk a little about my interests or books, I’d be happy to talk to him”

Denise, 31

“If a guy wants to talk to me, they need to add a little common humor. If you don’t know what ‘common humor’ means, it’s humor for every type of person where they can have a little chuckle or gain a sense of safety that says ‘hey I’m a stranger but don’t worry I’m not a bad guy.’ I am really introverted, but if you get me to laugh or feel safe around you, then I wouldn’t mind talking.”

Hanna, 25

“Silent girls are hard to talk to. Trust me, because I am one. Although, don’t mistake my silence as being a snob; I just don’t know how to make conversations. I find it cute if a guy beside me would randomly comment about what’s happening. Let’s say, commenting about the sky, or how hot the weather is—anything general. Small talks are nice. I like it. Just be friendly of course, I could tell if your intentions are for something impure.”

Sara, 23

“‘Stranger danger’ has been ingrained in my mind since I was a kid. I’m not comfortable when someone random comes up to me. However, I’m more keen towards friends of friends. I know that they’re strangers to me but there’s a sense of comfort knowing that they’re friends of my friends. It would take me time to open up, so we might need to take time to hang out. I show signs of being comfortable by doing side comments or little verbal jabs. And if they start introducing more about who they really are, then I’m sold.”

Julie, 29

Do you know what they all have in common? The need for comfort. Women will talk to anyone they’re comfortable with.

When you want to talk to girls, be an active listener so you can connect on a deeper level.

Questions, Questions, Questions. Questions?

Women love to talk; there’s no denying that. Of course you have to keep in mind that you’re being friendly. You’re not holding a press conference for the post game interview of a basketball game. Keep the questions light, open-ended, and engaging.

For example:

● What kind of music do you like?

● How do you manage to survive your job?

● What would happen if you never pursued your passion?

● What inspired you to work out?

Questions like these keep a woman engaged. With these types of questions, you’ll get to understand who they are. Of course, you need to ask the kind of questions that are appropriate for the circumstances. For example, you wouldn’t want to ask a woman what inspired her to work out if she seems conscious about her figure. Be sensitive.

Be an Active Listener, Not a Voice Recorder

Listening is different from hearing. When you hear things, you allow sound to pass through your ears without necessarily understanding what they are. When you listen, you intently understand what the sounds are and what they mean. There is intention when you listen.

Actively listening to the woman you’re talking to allows the woman to feel safe. She will feel secure that you are acknowledging her statements and presence. Don’t be a voice recorder and remember line by line of every single thing she says. As a matter of fact, question some parts of her conversation and make relatable responses now and then.

Remember to not butt in the conversation—unless it calls for relatability. Always remember your courtesy towards the woman. That is why listening is crucial to every conversation you engage in.

Find Common Ground to Stand On

You don’t necessarily need to be interested in everything. It only takes one common interest to spark things up in a conversation. Common ground doesn’t necessarily mean a common interest or something you both share; a similar experience can connect both of you to a common feeling. Others would go as far as trauma bonding—but we’re not here to talk about that.

Practice Makes Perfect

Learning how to talk to females is a tedious process, especially for people who have no experience. That’s why there are dating apps and services that would help you practice your conversation skills. The internet provides people with opportunities to hone their communication skills. So, the next time you talk to girls in person, you will be even more confident and comfortable to carry a conversation.

With practice and determination, you’ll know how to properly talk to women without that awkward feeling. It takes a while to master, so don’t beat yourself up if you mess up a conversation. You’ll get there.