From Swipe to Spark: Topics to Talk About with a Girl Online

Her Online Profile

If you’re wondering how to start a conversation with a girl you just matched with, you can try starting your chat with something about her online profile that genuinely caught your eye.

Instead of a vague “Tell me about your profile,” go for thoughtful, open-ended questions like:

“I saw you mentioned being into [her hobby] on your profile. How long have you been doing that?”

“Is that your pet in one of your pictures? They’re adorable! What’s their name?”

“That photo of you in [an interesting location] looks great! Is that a recent trip you had?”

“What was the best part of that trip?”

Depending on her response, you may share a brief relevant experience or interest of your own. This makes the conversation mutual and sets the stage for a truly engaging interaction.

Hobbies and Interests

It's often a given that your conversation will veer into each other's interests after the small talk about her profile. As such, your hobbies are almost always a safe and effective choice when moving on to another talking point because they keep things light yet still dynamic.

The key is to ask open-ended questions and then listen to or read her responses carefully so you can ask follow-ups later on.

Here are some general icebreaker questions to ask a girl you just met:

“How did you get into your hobbies?”

“On weekends, are you more of an outdoor adventurer or a city explorer?”

“Are you more of a ‘cozy night at home’ person or a ‘go out and grab a drink with friends’ person?”

“Do you have any favorite go-to spots in your place for [her hobby]?”

Pop Culture

The goal is to spark an interesting conversation, not conduct a quiz. You’re finding common ground and getting a better sense of her personality through her leisure interests.

Instead of going through a checklist of usual conversation topics, why not try fun subjects that have a high chance of getting her to open up about something that you will find relatable?

A good example is something about entertainment media and pop culture.

Here’s how you can approach asking these kinds of questions:

“What’s the last movie or TV show that really hooked you? What did you like so much about it?”

“Are you more into K-dramas, action, or rom-coms?”

“Any artists you’re really into right now? What’s your go-to song from them?”

“Are you an avid gamer? Which games do you enjoy?”

Travel Experience

Talking about travel is another great way to make a conversation engaging, as most people either love traveling, dream of traveling, or enjoy hearing about other people’s travel adventures.

Also, you can learn a lot about a person's priorities and personality from the way they travel and the experiences they enjoy.

Encourage storytelling and insights with these questions:

“What's the most unforgettable trip you've ever taken, and why did it stick with you?”

“Is there a place on your travel bucket list that you’re determined to see?”

“Are you more of a meticulous planner or someone who goes with the flow?”

“What’s one thing that you always pack that makes your trips better?”

Food and Drink Preferences

Everyone eats and drinks, so this is a low-pressure, high-potential topic for interactions. Since people are also guaranteed to have distinct food preferences, it's simple for either of you to add something to the conversation.

Go beyond the basic “Do you like [X]?” question to learn why she enjoys something and the experiences that go along with it, like:

“Does your comfort food remind you of anything or anyone specific?”

“What’s your favorite local dish, and what makes it special to you?”

“Do you enjoy cooking? What’s something you love to make?”

“What is your go-to beverage for relaxing at the end of the day?”

Lighthearted and Hypothetical Scenarios

If you're willing to be creative, this type of topic can be a fantastic choice.

Verywell Mind suggests that these kinds of questions are simple to respond to and can be entertaining, since it will make for hours of conversation and you can see if you share a sense of humor.

Now, do girls get attracted to guys who tease them?

It's true that ladies sometimes find guys who tease them attractive, but it's important that the teasing be light and amusing. It can be off-putting and cause discomfort if the teasing is persistent or cruel.

To help you out, here are some examples of questions you can use:

“If animals were granted the ability to speak, which one would you want to speak to first, and what would you ask it?”

“What ice cream flavor do you think is the greatest of all the flavors?”

“What would you wish for if you discovered a magic lamp that granted only one wish? What would you do first if it were to come true?”

“Which would you prefer—being invisible or having the ability to fly? Where would you fly to or who would you spy on first?”