10 Ways Women Read Men

No one is perfect; we all have our flaws.

In dating, these flaws can make or break your chances with a woman. As a result, men often put on a facade to try to hide their shortcomings. Little do they know, it's a mistake they'll soon regret.

It’s only natural for people to put their best foot forward, especially when they go on a date. They dress up and put on the best perfume in hopes of giving their dates a great impression. But not everything that glitters is gold. Even when they think nothing could go wrong, women are bound to notice their flaws.

Women are natural observers. They are known to be more intuitive than men, mostly because they’re more emotionally aware and have better social cognition. Women can see everything—from the way you present yourself to how you talk to them.

Gentlemen, you can’t always get away with faking. Women can see through you and your actions right from the get-go.

According to information from Psychology Today, men tend to excel in understanding objects, physical abilities, and spatial awareness, while women are better at recognizing facial patterns and demonstrating emotional insight.

So, if a woman confronts you about your behavior, don’t go screaming, “Why me out of all people?!” She has perceived your true intentions, and there’s no use denying it.

If you want to avoid being put on the spot while trying to impress your date, it’s best to learn about the 10 ways women read men so you can act accordingly.

Talking to a woman in person is different from talking to a girl online. While people can fake their persona and way of communicating online, women can easily detect what kind of person you are just by the way you handle conversations with them.

From an online dating perspective, especially whenever you’re chatting with females, it may seem easy to start conversing with them; the problem lies with consistency—women will figure something is wrong when you show inconsistency.

Body language is a form of nonverbal communication that expresses feelings through body movements. Just by looking at your mannerisms and demeanor around them, women can tell if you’re anxious, overly emotional, or disengaged.

Whether you're shy or extroverted, women can gauge your authenticity by observing your body language in their presence.

One key part of how women read men is through speech. Believe it or not, women can tell if you are lying, telling the truth, or hiding something through the way you speak.

According to Forbes, research shows that a person’s voice can betray the person—people can’t tell whether the person is telling the truth when things are spoken online vs. when someone is speaking, and women can tell from the get-go.

If you think women are easily deceived by creating an elaborate backstory about your life, you couldn’t be more wrong. 

Women have a remarkable ability to remember details about people. Much like how Google stores passwords, they will fact-check your statements, and if you misspeak, they will remind you of something you mentioned previously.

When you're on a first date with a woman, one common question she might pose is, "What do you enjoy doing outside of work?"

Why are they curious about this? It's because they want to understand what life could be like if they were to share it with you.

A woman envisions her future when she considers letting a man into her life; therefore, she ensures that his lifestyle aligns with hers. Women can adapt, but there are certain lifestyles they’re not willing to accept.

Remember, dress to leave a good impression. Most women are particular about fashion—it’s best you ensure your outfit goes with your personality and looks.

A person’s aesthetics can tell a lot about a person. Women will first look at your shoes, all the way to your hair.

However, you shouldn’t be discouraged if a woman judges your outfit—she’s just being honest with her opinion. How you present yourself is what matters more to her.

In addition to evaluating your lifestyle, women also pay attention to the types of jobs or businesses you pursue. It’s not about shaming career choices; rather, they look for a man who is confident and stable enough to fend for himself.

Think of it this way: a woman might question how you can afford all these lavish gifts when you’re barely earning enough. It wouldn’t add up for someone earning that much to spend on high-end presents or to treat themselves to pricey meals.

Sometimes opposites attract, and those with the same interests gel with each other. Women will check whether your personality fits with theirs. It may seem shallow, but it makes sense.

An individual with a calm demeanor complements someone who is more expressive. Women are interested in knowing if your personality can blend harmoniously with theirs. For them, chemistry and bonding matter when they get into a relationship.

When you talk to a woman, they will take note of your intelligence, whether emotional or intellectual. One way to check whether you’re emotionally intelligent is to see how empathetic you react to certain things, or how you respond to an emotionally difficult situation.

Other than that, they will also take note of how logical, opinionated, or arithmetical you can be.

If you have something to say to a girl you're seeing or you want to talk about something in front of her, it's important to first assess your attitude.

You may not notice it, but women see how you treat other people. If they notice that you’re being kind to her but rude to the restaurant’s waitstaff, she’s assuming that you’re just faking kindness to her.

Keep your attitude and behavior in check if you don’t want to give her the wrong impression.

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There are more than 10 ways women read men, but in the meantime, let’s settle for the most obvious ones. What’s important is that we learn the importance of authenticity in dating. 

Sure, men can be unpredictable, but women, with their intuition and wit, can recognize insincerity a mile away. They’ll hit you with reality faster than you can realize what you just did. If you want to succeed in dating, all you really need is to bring your genuine self to the table.

REFERENCES

Barkman, Robert. 2019. “Do You See the Patterns I See?” Psychology Today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/singular-perspective/201906/do-you-see-the-patterns-i-see.

Escalante, Alison. 2021. “Research Finds A New Trick To Telling If Someone Is Lying: Their Voice.” Forbes. https://www.forbes.com/sites/alisonescalante/2021/02/10/research-finds-a-new-trick-to-telling-if-someone-is-lying-their-voice/.