How to Heal After a Breakup: Take the High Road in 8 Ways

Allow Yourself to Feel Every Emotion

Breakups can elicit a variety of painful and unsettling emotions. Some people feel broken, some people feel relieved, while others feel both at the same time, which is all valid and acceptable.

Grief, which can manifest in a variety of ways, is a natural response to loss. As claimed by Psychologs Magazine, men are especially afraid of their own emotions for fear of being perceived as weak and unmanly.

But remember that allowing yourself to face these emotions is what allows you to truly let go and move forward.

Talk About How You’re Feeling

We understand that sitting by yourself can be more comforting than telling others about your experiences, but you do not have to go through this alone. Talk to your friends and family. If you are going through a divorce and do not want to talk about it with your loved ones, you could join marriage breakup support groups.

Create outlets for your emotions and allow yourself to talk about them. Isolating yourself can be harmful to your physical health because it raises stress levels, which have been linked to an increased risk of heart disease and a weakened immune system.

Take Some Time Out to Relax

There’s no shame in taking some time off from work because you aren’t feeling emotionally well. Do things that relax you, such as binge-watching movies, visiting a new restaurant, staying overnight at a beach or mountain house, or simply getting a much-needed 8-hour sleep.

It’s okay to be less productive than usual for a while. Rest is essential for regaining the calm, clarity, and efficiency necessary to pursue your goals again.

Reduce Contact or Consider No Contact

You may be wondering, “Should I reach out to my ex?”

After a period of no contact, this is relatively normal, especially if you are in the early stages of healing and remain motivated by melancholy and nostalgia. However, we strongly advise you not to.

Reaching out to them can only disrupt both of your emotions. Your ex may also feel disrespected if you suddenly knock on her door again. Just stay in your lane and prioritize self-care.

Keep Busy With New Hobbies

Losing someone can also mean making way for new and better things. Take advantage of your breakup to try new things, like hobbies you’ve always wanted to do but have been afraid to pursue. Don’t let your breakup hold you back from realizing your full potential!

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Prioritize Creating Healthy Habits

When pursuing new hobbies, make sure to include wholesome and healthy activities. This includes exercising, eating a well-balanced diet, spending less time on social media, and steering clear of any vices.

Specifically, according to the Alcohol and Drug Foundation in 2024, one of the factors influencing a person’s use of alcohol and drugs is the need to cope with problems and stress. Remember that you can always choose healthier options available to you as you navigate through difficult times.

Consider Visiting a Mental Health Counselor

Let’s break the stigma of visiting a mental health counselor, especially for men. This is particularly important if you’ve been feeling depressed for up to two weeks. Visiting one is similar to seeing a regular doctor, but with them, you can express your emotions and experiences deeply, safely, and privately.

No, you’re not crazy or weak for seeing one. You’re a human being who requires the assistance of mental health professionals to best overcome your challenges.

Focus On the Good Aspects of the Breakup

We know how bittersweet goodbyes can be, but you don’t have to burden yourself by dwelling on the negative events that happened. Instead, make an effort to shift your perspective so that you see the situation as a learning opportunity and a blessing in disguise.

Perhaps she wasn’t the one because the one for you is actually found overseas. Or perhaps that good relationship has simply run its course, and there is no way to save it except to accept that some people grow apart.